Cherish our men

Hi there,
Okay. Today this goes out to my fellow Black females. I posted this question on the essence community: Why is the present perception of the young Black male twisted and negatively prejudged? I know, big question right.
Well I got some replies and what it it seems to ball down to is that we see it portrayed and we believe it, we accept it, we tolerate it, we become okay with it. We cannot see it and say nothing. We have to say something. We must say something. Sisters, I am talking to you. We must reeducate them. Tell them to pull up their pants. Tell them to stop hanging on the corner. There is a prejudgment because of the stereotypes, so, get rid of it.
I feel like everything starts at home. Teach your sons, brothers, cousins, friends to focus their energy on faith. The faith that even if they are not loved by family members, they can receive that love from us. Below is an excerpt from a piece that I wrote:
...It is true that our men do not hear enough encouragement throughout their lives so, as Black women we should fill that void. We should soothe their ears with love and compassion. Let them know that they are our leaders, our lovers, our supporters, and are powerful individuals who have the ability to make a difference. We should honor our men and let them know that we are there to tell them to keep their chin up. When the world is not on their side pushing them down; we are there to lift our Black men up. As they should be there for us, we are there for them. We are to feed our men with knowledge of respect and to let them know when they have sprinted over the line. At times we might forget that all they need is a little love so we should hold them and let them know that even though they might feel pressured to do certain things in society; we are here for them, to upgrade, to love and honor them. With us there is an air of comfort and ease.
We have the power to make them feel high and mighty. We have the power to change a boy into a man. However, in order for that statement to be true, we must respect ourselves. We must give ourselves high but accessible standards. We are regal queens and any man who comes in contact with us should realize it; and therefore, know immediately that we respond only to respectful comments. But if we lose our self respect, our counterparts begin to lose their ability to become men, only because they don’t have to. They have to know that we are exclusive and know that we are intriguing women that have standards in which they are to attain. It is necessary to be the type of women that loves her self and is confident enough to know that we are worth the world and more. They will no longer give that fast chick on the corner their time because of the now unveiled new direction and hopeful destination. They will have a new respect for women.
We must stand strong together as one and not respond to those rude hollers that we get daily as we walk to school or work. Together we will climb out of that deep and narrow hole that was dug for us and reach that plateau of self respect together. If they realize that women are continuously not responding to their loud bird calls, then it is possible that they will stop and think to realize that they must stop that irksome behavior. They will soon start to take the steps towards man-li-hood and step up their game to connect and contact us, women with self respect. They will then become enhanced gentlemen. . As you consciously better yourself, you unconsciously better the male. We must re inform our men; we must uplift our men, we must honor our men...
I believe that with actions and only actions things can be changed.
Stay Blessed


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