Hi there,
Well, I was on the Tyra show site a couple of days ago and and saw that Thursdays show was on teen virgins and "the peer pressure they face to become promiscuous, and the embarrassment they feel for not being sexually active." I was not in front of a television at that time so I did not see the show. However, I still have something to say.
I think that we need to value ourselves, have some self love. Agh! Just know that you are worthy. Why should you feel embarrassed for not being sexually active? Just because all your friends speak highly of it, it does not mean that you should take part. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
I believe that our bodies are sacred and the Lords temple. I believe that we are to wait for the one who truly loves us and who can commit to us. You see what happens is that when we give it too easy that little spark is gone; that little spark of hunt and chase dissipates into thin air. Guys like to hunt. That drive is in them and if you take that away, it is no longer fun. Where's the challenge? Where's that pride in saying, yeah he worked hard for it? Where's the mystery for the guy? And trust, all things that come too easy don't last for long. It is with the dedication, commitment, and esteemed faith that things are earned, deserved and cherished.
Now you may disagree with me and say: "But no I am not giving it too easy. I am just in a relationship and that is what we do. I don't want to be with him for so long and then find out that he can't satisfy me in the bedroom. Come on, you gotta try it out first." Well I am not asking you to agree with me, I am only suggesting that you think before you act.
Now, I will not go into the all well known consequences that might occur, but instead I want to keep it on that subject that I have always believed in; and that is self love.
You should love yourself enough to know that you are worth the wait. I know, I think I have said this before. But it just seems like it can't be said enough. I believe that it is important for all women to understand their value and to know that their self worth is so far beyond imaginable. If we can understand that one thing and just that alone, then we will be able to unleash the tiger that is within. As women we have so much hidden strength and power that has not been tapped into because we just don't know how. We look for answers everywhere except within ourselves.
The answer lies within; we were created to be fierce.
Be not pressured.
We live to create
We live to love
We live to live
3 comments:
hi Melanie, I like the way you explain, your point of view on our worth as women. Like you said if only young ladies these days knew their worth, they would move move mountains.
Prim
I feel that women in our day believe that food is no longer the key to a man’s heart, sex is. “I’m afraid of being alone so, I will give him my all and hope he stays” or “I am afraid to be alone so I will show him all I have to offer and hope he stays” or “I am afraid of being alone so I will engage in sexual activity, give him a child and hope he stays.” Self-love is exactly what women of this day lack; self-love and God’s vision. If Jehovah God wanted us to be fast, there would have never been a commandment against it. Not everyone comes across His vision at an early age; this all comes with maturity, which is why sexual activity should not take place at an early age.
When a female learns to respect herself, she realizes that not every Tom, Harry and Frank will be worthy of her preciousness, no matter how good he looks, how he looks at you, how bubbly he makes you feel…when the right one comes along, you will be ready to spend your life with that individual. It breaks my heart to know that 13-year olds are in clinics for STD’s because they got themselves caught up in activities that they were simply unprepared for, all because they wanted to fit in with the crowd.
Pardon the comparison but ask yourself: would I let a bumb off the street kiss me if he/she asked? I can assure you the answer is NO for various reasons; for the same reasons, a guy who (probably doesn’t even know your last name) asks for your preciousness, you should not even think twice.
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