Cherish our men

Hi there,
Okay. Today this goes out to my fellow Black females. I posted this question on the essence community: Why is the present perception of the young Black male twisted and negatively prejudged? I know, big question right.
Well I got some replies and what it it seems to ball down to is that we see it portrayed and we believe it, we accept it, we tolerate it, we become okay with it. We cannot see it and say nothing. We have to say something. We must say something. Sisters, I am talking to you. We must reeducate them. Tell them to pull up their pants. Tell them to stop hanging on the corner. There is a prejudgment because of the stereotypes, so, get rid of it.
I feel like everything starts at home. Teach your sons, brothers, cousins, friends to focus their energy on faith. The faith that even if they are not loved by family members, they can receive that love from us. Below is an excerpt from a piece that I wrote:
...It is true that our men do not hear enough encouragement throughout their lives so, as Black women we should fill that void. We should soothe their ears with love and compassion. Let them know that they are our leaders, our lovers, our supporters, and are powerful individuals who have the ability to make a difference. We should honor our men and let them know that we are there to tell them to keep their chin up. When the world is not on their side pushing them down; we are there to lift our Black men up. As they should be there for us, we are there for them. We are to feed our men with knowledge of respect and to let them know when they have sprinted over the line. At times we might forget that all they need is a little love so we should hold them and let them know that even though they might feel pressured to do certain things in society; we are here for them, to upgrade, to love and honor them. With us there is an air of comfort and ease.
We have the power to make them feel high and mighty. We have the power to change a boy into a man. However, in order for that statement to be true, we must respect ourselves. We must give ourselves high but accessible standards. We are regal queens and any man who comes in contact with us should realize it; and therefore, know immediately that we respond only to respectful comments. But if we lose our self respect, our counterparts begin to lose their ability to become men, only because they don’t have to. They have to know that we are exclusive and know that we are intriguing women that have standards in which they are to attain. It is necessary to be the type of women that loves her self and is confident enough to know that we are worth the world and more. They will no longer give that fast chick on the corner their time because of the now unveiled new direction and hopeful destination. They will have a new respect for women.
We must stand strong together as one and not respond to those rude hollers that we get daily as we walk to school or work. Together we will climb out of that deep and narrow hole that was dug for us and reach that plateau of self respect together. If they realize that women are continuously not responding to their loud bird calls, then it is possible that they will stop and think to realize that they must stop that irksome behavior. They will soon start to take the steps towards man-li-hood and step up their game to connect and contact us, women with self respect. They will then become enhanced gentlemen. . As you consciously better yourself, you unconsciously better the male. We must re inform our men; we must uplift our men, we must honor our men...
I believe that with actions and only actions things can be changed.
Stay Blessed


We live to create
We live to love
We live to live

My Anthem! Our Anthem!

Hi there,
YES, I FINALLY FOUND IT. MY ANTHEM! Chrisette Michele my girl had to bring it down. I don't think you understand how happy I feel. Even though I am kind of upset I didn't make it up myself, I will not be a hater.
So the song talks about... guess what..Ladies please be a queen.
I really don't have anything else to say right now. I just wanted to let you all in on the song. Her lyrics speak for me. And isten to it for yourself, it's embedded right here on this page.:
-Girl Respect Yourself-
Say that I’m a queen, Say that I’m lovely
Say I’m standing tall, I’m all that I can be
Say you’re beautiful, if no one else will
Tell yourself until you believe in you
Nothing wrong with smiles hold your head up high
You can touch the sky everyone can fly hold your head up high
No one bring you down, keep your body clean
Queens are purity, lady be a queen


Girl respect yourself
Girl respect yourself
Lady be a queen
Lady be a queen

I loved Mr. Man, Mr. Man was lost
He didn’t love my body no
He didn’t love my heart
I gave my everything just to love a man
My love my purity oh
Just to find a friend
Never will I run from my heart again
First show me the diamonds, then take off my jeans
Now I’m free again, standing on my own
Loving me again oh freedom for my soul

I’m an heir to the throne of the most high
You neglect me, you neglect what you live by
Lady pick your head up don’t let him disgrace you
Lady watch what he says don’t let him degrade you
And if his body’s calling let him wait till your ready
Save what you earned until a diamond gets lucky
Make sure you got a man who knows what force unites us
In this world we living in your man can only be righteous
Brothers call her Queen and treat her like she’s worth it
don’t let words demean, Queens don’t deserve it
Ima stand tall like the heir I know I am
I’m only gonna win if I am right within yep
-Chrisette Michele-
Stay Blessed.

We live to create.
We live to love.
We live to live.

Dress Code

Hi there,
Well it seems as I have had writers block for a while now. I think I may be thinking too hard. Anyways, today I think I am going to talk about respecting yourself enough to be a lady.
It is getting closer to those summer days. Yes, hotter weather does require less clothes but please, PLEASE,lets all stop for a second and breathe. Ladies, if that is who you truly are, look in your mirrors; and when I say look, I mean look! I see women in the streets with their cracks all out in the open. I always think to myself, why can't these women love themselves enough to be ladies and represent themselves with class and dignity.
I don't know, I guess it can depend on how you were raised. You see, my parents taught my sisters and I to love ourselves, and to treat ourselves with the up most respect. You can't say you respect yourself and leave it all out in the open. It just doesn't make much sense. You may think that I am going a little over board but, I feel like i can't stress this enough. LOVE YOURSELVES AND YOU WILL BE LOVED.
If you don't see it by the words that are printed here, then maybe you will notice it when you walk outside. If your crack is out, you will get attention, but is it the right kind of attention? Men will be men, when they see something that makes them excited they will act on it and say something. However that does not mean that they respect you. It does not mean that they even care about you and when you entertain their calls, it makes it even worse.
Yes, they may remember you, but it will only be for your body. Be memorable in the right way. Let them see your mind, not your thighs. Let them see your aspirations, not your...
Be true to yourself.
Love yourself.
At least like yourself enough to know that you are exquisite.
Stay Blessed.

We live to create.
We live to love.
We live to live.

Proud

Hi there,
Ugh! It's over! I know, I know, you don't know what I am talking about. Well this past week I was in a Ms. Haiti pageant on my college campus.I won third place! The actual event was on Thursday night. I have never been so nervous in my life. Being extremely nervous to perform is kind of new to me; I have been performing in front of big audiences since a young age. So why was I so nervous; I DON'T KNOW. My palms were sweaty and my mouth was dry; but once I got through the first question I was good. The pageant was so much fun. It was a beautiful thing to see so many wonderful ladies proudly representing our culture, my Haitian culture.
You know sometimes you are not sure that people are proud of where they come from especially if there are so many negative stereotypes attached to it. But being a part of this pageant has reassured me that your culture and heritage will never leave you. In order to alter the social stigma connected to it you must live it, be it, and continuously represent it with no doubts or hesitations.
It was great to hear so many people shouting and screaming for AYITI, yelling and hollering for the ladies that represented AYITI oh so well. This past Thursday was an enriching experience for me. I would say enriching because I never realized how important it was to be recognized for your country. I was always proud to be a Haitian individual, but it was never more than that. I would love to take it to the next level. I hope that everyone has the chance to represent their culture in some way and some form as I did. It is an experience to remember.
Never hold back the values taught or your drive for creative works. Always stand tall and firm and believe in who you are. One of my favorite quotes is from Terrance Howard and it just happens to fit with what I am talking about: "Presence walks into a room and surrounds and fills anything that’s in that room without trying to demand it, it takes it. It can come from a smile." Be that presence, let it inhabit your body, be the presence that stands strong for its origin. So this post is for everyone; believe in yourself right from the start, believe in your heart, believe in who you are. OMG! I sound like Lena Horne from the movie The Wiz. It is funny but it is also very true. Believe in yourself the whole way through.
Stay Blessed.


We live to create
We live to love
We live to live